Daily Archives: October 24, 2008

Everyone Gets to Have Their Own Context in Life

I had an appointment to have a lunch meeting with some friends today.  When I arrived at our chosen rendezvous point, one of the guys was nowhere to be found.  He has a tendency to occasionally be flighty and forgetful.  I found out that he just wasn’t coming to the meeting from one of the other guys.  So, I called him to ride him hard about not showing up and not calling me to cancel the meeting (We really needed all of us there for the meeting to take place).

It wasn’t until after I hung up the phone that I found out the reason he could not be there.  And without going into details (but just for context of how big a jerk I am), something seriously negative had happened in his life that was far more important than our little meeting.  I immediately called back and left a message apologizing for the first message, but the horse was already out of the chicken coop. I often forget that other people have context to their lives that does not necessarily correlate with the context of my life.

I can’t help but think about politics in connection with this thought.  People have contexts to their own lives that others may not ever be able to comprehend.  I think this is where yelling and divisive political discourse has its roots.  For example, I can’t understand how someone could cry over voting for someone, just not possible for me.  And trust me, I can get pretty weepy.  However, that person has obviously had a different experience in life that gives different context to that moment of voting.

We need to all remember that we are a vast and varied country with individually vast and varied life contexts.  We have the great privilege of voting for our leaders.  At the same time while having those disagreements of ideas, try to remember in your emails, conversations, and blog posts that we are also all neighbors and fellow citizens of a pretty great country (no matter the current circumstances) who each have our own context in life that informs our political decisions.  Those don’t make us good or bad people, they just are what they are and make us who we are.


Filed under by DB, Politics

Everything* I Know About Baseball I Learned From My Mother

The quintessential adage about how life was so much harder for parents than their children is the “walking to school, up hill, both ways, in the snow (with numerous variations and additions) story”. But when I was a child, what impressed me more that any tales of having to walk anywhere was when I found out that my mom’s family didn’t have a television! What? No TV? I was flabbergasted. How did one survive without television?

My mom always had a way of surprising me with information about her life. Take for instance the time she let it slip that she not only did she know it was World Series season but she knew which teams were playing and who was leading in wins! Now, sports and my mother are about as foreign to each other as Donald Trump and a good haircut, so this revelation came as complete shock to me! Why would she know this?

It kind of went back to the TV thing. As I remember it, they did get to watch television, they just had walk (shocker!) to a neighbor’s house to do so. Most specifically, they would go to watch the World Series. She explained that ever since then she, out of habit, followed the World Series.

And pretty much ever since I learned that about her, I do to. I don’t care a lick about baseball any other time of year. But when the World Series begins, I may or may not watch the games, but I always know who is playing and what the win count is. (Phillies – 1, Rays – 1)

I wonder what things about my childhood would seem hard to my children? Is there anything about my life that they would find surprising?

*OK, may not everything but she did get the “ball” rolling!


Filed under by Malia, musings