Thirty(something), Flirty(not) & Thriving

glamour MaliaI found an interesting post the other day on the blog known as Tina, the blog owner, shared a suggestion from a forum that she frequents regarding New Year’s resolutions.

New Year’s resolutions are so difficult for a lot of us. How about instead—- choosing a single WORD at the beginning of the year that you hope will describe your focus, your attitude, hopes, dreams, prayers or theme. Your go to word, your word to meditate on when things seem off. Maybe it is a word that describes something in your life you need to work on but maybe not. Maybe it will be a serious word, maybe a fun word. Look at your new year and sum up the focus you want in one word. Write it down. Say it to yourself over and over. Look up the definition in the dictionary and write it down too. Redefine it for yourself and your life. Your word might come to you instantly or it might need some reflection.

I think that’s a great way to approach life in general.  There are definitely times when you need specific goals to reach but it helps if your goals and dreams fall under an overarching theme. But as I thought about it, I had trouble coming up with what my theme or word could possibly be.

Then earlier today I read an interview with Rebecca St. James that my Wedded Bliss contributor Lori did for Christian Women Online. In the interview Rebecca told Lori:

There have been seasons in my life, as I talked about in the book, where I realized I wasn’t thriving—I was simply surviving!  ‘Survival mode’ for me was simply getting by day-to-day and not failing. It was rooted in fear—fear of rejection, of stepping out to new opportunities, or people or challenges, even at times wanting what I did to be ‘just right’ to the point of agonizing over the creative process. It was exhausting to focus on surviving one challenge to get to the next one—a never ending cycle.  It took me some time to wake up to the reality that God doesn’t want us to just survive—He wants us to thrive!  In my own life, I have come to the realization that God is in total control of my steps—they are ordered of Him—and with Him guiding the path I can throw off all fears—I can move from ‘survive’ to ‘thrive’!”

And that’s when it hit me. In my reflections of 2008, I described the year as “survived”. And there were many times during the year when DB and I comisserated with each other saying that we felt we were just surviving  life, not really living it.

So taking the suggestion from Tina and pairing it with the word from Rebecca, I’m going to make ‘thrive’ my word/theme for 2009.  This will be a year to thrive in, not to just survive or muddle through. I’ll try to remember when the going gets tough that I don’t just want to survive, I want to thrive, to grow and learn.


Filed under by Malia, musings

4 responses to “Thirty(something), Flirty(not) & Thriving

  1. The word thing is from Ali Edwards, no? I like the word you’ve chosen. 🙂

  2. We’re calling this the ‘year of Austere’

    Diet, money, our schedules, it fits perfectly with what we want/need to do this year.

    With a trip to Disney in the middle of all that austerity. You’ve got to give yourself a break from attempts at self improvement, lest you get grumpy.

    I know this from experience. 🙂

  3. Pingback: *hello, readers* at *o, pish posh!*

  4. Pingback: Midpoint Check-In « live. laugh. love.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s