Monthly Archives: January 2008

If you can’t find me here…

…try looking over here.

oc-christmas-025_crop2.jpgA couple of weeks ago the “powers that be” (her and her) asked me if I’d consider joining the new Editorial Board for Music City Bloggers as the Family and Parenting Editor. Now, before you get too impressed, this is a volunteer gig. Nonetheless, I was honored that they wanted me “on board”. They’ve requested at least five posts a week about all things family and parenting related. My personal goal is to put up at least one post a day during the weekdays and possibly one post over the weekend.

This means I’ve been beefing up my feed reader with blogs that I didn’t already read and blogs that I read from time to time when I’d see a link to them. I’m mainly supposed to keep my links on the site to Mid Tennessee & Tennessee bloggers but I’ve added feeds for some “out of towners” for variety and perspective. All this and also trying to not let it affect the home life too much has been quite a challenge. But I’m having fun and I like the opportunity to do more writing, so we’ll go with it!

For my “out of town” readers who may not be familiar with the Music City Bloggers site, here are my latest contributions:

This Just May Make You Rethink Your Short Bus Jokes
Quarter ‘Til Three
Blogging From Birth
Love in Percentages
Ah, nostalgia
The family is the country of the heart


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Color in the Sky

oc-christmas-025_crop2.jpgLast night as I was trying to get dinner finished up and was way too distracted by Twitter conversations, the GMan bursts out with, “Look! Look! Look at the sky!” I glanced out the window and observed a fairly nice sunset in the works. On the scale of sunsets, it was probably only in the mid-range of spectacularness and breathtaking. But to our three-year-old, it was the most beautiful thing he’d ever seen. “Look Mommy! It’s pink! The sky is pink! Look at all the colors! Oh! Look over there!” And then the best thing of all, “Who put the colors there Mommy?” Y’all, I about choked up. “God did. God put the colors there!” “He did?” “Yes, He did!”

What a grand thing to be able to tell him that.  What a precious moment to stand there with him and JBelle and DB and watch the lights fading rays turn the sky pink and purple and orange. Intangible, fleeting moments that hold so much promise and hope.

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All Skate

oc-christmas-025_crop2.jpgJBelle went to her first skating party on Saturday. She’s never skated before. Ever. Well…sort of. She has a pair of in-line skates that were handed down to her from one of her cousins. She shuffles around in them in the house and a little bit outside. I don’t let her go on the wood floors, not really because of her safety but because I don’t want deep gouges in the floors from her shuffling back and forth!

So…back to the party. At the skate center you get regular ole roller skates. I’d explained the concept of them to her beforehand. Y’all, she was mess! And I felt so guilty! Why had I not given her a pair of skates two years ago and taught her how to rollerskate? By the time I was her age, I was a roller skating fiend! (Well, in that I could hold my own on a pair of skates and skate around the rink with everyone else. I never got into doing tricks or fancy footwork.) And skating parties were “all the rage” when I was kid. Everyone had skating parties.

Again, I digress. I told JBelle not to be afraid of falling. You’re going to fall, it’s OK. Look, lots of other kids are falling. I helped her out onto the rink. She fell. She didn’t cry, though. At least, not the first time. She shuffled her feet back and forth, didn’t get too far, fell down. By about the third or fourth fall she started to get frustrated and was crying. She even ended up falling in such a way, one time, that one of her skates hit her in the face just under her eye. Later that night she looked like she’d been in a fist fight!

I ended up staying the entire time with her. Walking the rink with her, helping her up when she fell. She was a lot more confident by the end of our time there. She was still shuffling, I never could get her to really lift her feet off the floor and glide. But she wasn’t falling as much and she could get herself up when she fell.

As a result, I’ve promised myself that she will learn to skate. I’m going to take her skating in the next several months and by her birthday…that new pair of skates she’s going to get will be put to good use!


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“I am determined to take the gospel seriously”

180px-opus_blue.jpgHopefully this post makes sense.

There are times I allow myself to contemplate what the “gospel of Christ” fully means.  In general, I find the topic to be rather scary because it illuminates how deficient I am as a “Christian”.  Sure it is easy to rationalize and even talk about certain seasons in life when “worldly” matters must take priority over the full discipleship that a Christian is called to.  But, it is easiest just to not think about it and keep those rationalizations as a hedge against any stray thoughts.

The title of this post is in quotes because it is from the “Beyond Vietnam” speech that Martin Luther King, Jr. gave in 1967.  More specifically, he said it near the end of the introduction to explain the reason for being involved in pursuing peace and justice and opposing the Vietnam War.  Most remember Dr. King with the label “civil rights leader”.  I think that title diminishes what he was trying to do in “taking the gospel seriously” throughout his life.   He felt compelled to involve himself in pursuing justice for the poor no matter where they lived and opposed the policies of the United States government and the people of the United States that used their position of power to exploit and oppress rather than administer justice and peace.

When I see the lengths to which Dr. King went to take the gospel seriously, even to his death, I am humbled and compelled to evaluate my own dedication and commitment to the gospel of Christ that teaches the way of peace and pursuit of justice even in the face of oppression and persecution.  It reminds me that the way of human power is temporary and will always eventually be brought down by the ways of justice and peace.  If you don’t believe me, then ask yourself who currently cares anything about the spread of communism via the domino theory?

There are many parallels to the current political climate.  But then again, I think there always will be pressing crises that garner our attention and are vitally important that we urgently face and solve them, whether it be a soft housing market, an “Islamic terrorist” threat, a pending recession, a pit bull ban, what have you.  From what I read and understand, a Christian is to live differently and unwaveringly by a different ethic that always points to justice and peace for all people no matter the current distracting crisis.  I admire that quality of Dr. King above all others.  May we all as a collective of humanity strive to live that way. 

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The Things We Do For Our Kids


“I’ve got my laptop, cell phone, some blankets, my hat…”





“Well…you know you really don’t have to do this?”

“Yes, I do.”

“Okay then, just be careful…stay warm…please don’t get arrested!”

And out the door he went to brave the cold and dark. To secure his spot in line. To get our son into preschool next year.

Yes, we are those kind of parents. And yes, this preschool program is so worth it.

Some may wonder why we would be so crazy as to camp out just to turn in a preschool application. Some may think we’ve set the bar a little to high for future parents. Be that as it may, this program is our first choice. It’s where our daughter attended preschool and Kindergarten. It’s where we want to see our son go to school. Last year, we didn’t get in. And that was fine, it really was. But realizing later, that those who had arrived not too long before you had their child accepted, kind of makes you want to make sure you’re first in line the next time around.

This year? We were second in line. That’s right. We weren’t the only ones with the camp out idea.

(To our friends who who read this and who commented to us about this scenario on Sunday morning, we know you were joking. I just see some humor in this and wanted to share our little adventure.)


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Awww, shucks!

oc-christmas-025_crop2.jpgSo I had this little spa party last night at my place. Wine, chocolate, foot soaks, warm neck wraps, more wine, more chocolate, a bunch of products that smell divine and feel good, a little more wine, some cheese (really, really yummy cheese), a little more chocolate….you get the picture. It was indulgent and decadent which is exactly what I was supposed to be. My friend, Aunt B. was there, and she wrote a very nice and complimentary post about the evening. If I do say so myself, the chocolate cake is quite yummy!

And as I commented on her post, for me the indulgence and decadence of the evening wasn’t the spa treatments and the luscious food, it was the time spent with friends. For me, the absolute hardest thing about being a stay-at-home mom is the lack adult conversation and interactions. I try and seize every opportunity that comes my way to “pamper” myself with conversations that don’t include the phrases, “why do you smell like pee?” and “have you brushed your teeth yet?” and “stop pulling the dog’s tail!” and “no, you may not clean the bathroom with the toilet paper”. And to eat at restaurants that don’t serve plastic toys with their meals. And to not care about whether or not the kids like hummus or olive tapenade because I do and it’s my party and that’s what I’m serving!

Many thanks to my blogging friends (Aunt B., Shauna, Kathy T., Jag, Lesley, Jamie & Mari) and non-blogging friends who attended last night’s soirée. I had a fun, relaxing time and I hope you did, too!


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Does voting for a third party mean a wasted vote?

180px-opus_blue.jpg Playing the “what if” game can never be done in a vacuum.  If you want to reconsider Ralph Nader’s candidacy as a spoiler for Al Gore in 2000, you must also reconsider all the other factors that led to the actual results.  Bear in mind the link above is from the California Green Party, so they are *wanting* to absolve Ralph Nader, but the link does point out many possibilities which could have changed such a close result.  This doesn’t even get into the fact that only 70% of eligible people are registered to vote and somewhere between 50-60% of those registered actually vote in a presidential election.
This article from just before the 2004 election tries to support the notion that a vote for a third party candidate is a wasted vote and likely to “help the candidate most dissimilar to how you would vote”.  It is a scare tactic to keep voters within the 2-party system….and it worked in 2004.  Minor-party candidates received many fewer votes, dropping from a total of 3.5% in 2000 to approximately one percent in 2004. As in 2000, Ralph Nader finished in third place, but his total declined from 2.9 million to 400,000, leaving him with fewer votes than Reform Party candidate Pat Buchanan had received in finishing fourth in 2000. The combined minor-party total in 2004 was the lowest since 1988.  This is extremely short-sighted and doesn’t take into account the importance (historically) of third parties on shaping the political debate in the U.S.
It can be argued that the existence of the Libertarian Party led to the “smaller government” planks in the Republican platform during the Reagan and Bush Sr. days.  The existence of the Reform Party led to the campaign finance and reform laws in the Clinton era.  As icky as it is for me to say, the existence of the Socialist Party in the late 19th and early 20th centuries led to women’s suffrage, many of the labor laws we have, the 40-hour work week, and the progressive income tax.  The existence of the “Bull Moose” Progressive Party switched the Republican Party from the progressive, reform party of Abe Lincoln into the dominant conservative party we have today and helped make popular vote primaries the dominant method of determining presidential candidates for the Republican Party.
I say all of this to help you challenge the numb-brained myths such as Ralph Nader’s influence on the 2000 election and that a third party vote is “a wasted vote”.  Always vote your conscience, whether it be a major party candidate or minor.  Your voice and opinion will be heard eventually either way.


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All Creation

oc-christmas-025_crop2.jpgThe Ladies Bible Study at my church that has just started is called “Cultivating Contentment”. I think it’s supposed to be about being content. (Yeah, yeah…I crack myself up!) We were having our group discussion time this morning and something about the verses we were looking at really stood out to me. It was Romans 8:19-22:

19 For all creation is waiting eagerly for that future day when God will reveal who his children really are. 20 Against its will, all creation was subjected to God’s curse. But with eager hope, 21 the creation looks forward to the day when it will join God’s children in glorious freedom from death and decay. 22 For we know that all creation has been groaning as in the pains of childbirth right up to the present time.

I piped up and tried to explain why this was important to me but I didn’t do a very good job. It was hard to say without sounding kind of crazy and without the ladies in class possibly thinking I’m really a polytheist. But I was quite struck by the multiple uses of “all creation” in this passage. It also makes me think of Luke 19:40 where Christ says:

40“I tell you,” he replied, “if they keep quiet, the stones will cry out.”

And there are numerous other references in the Bible to all of creation being part of giving glory to God and being affected by God’s will.

So, back to my musings. When I read, “all creation”, I think not only of mankind but of all the parts of this world; animals, trees, plants, flowers, oceans, rivers, mountains, glaciers, deserts, insects, etc, etc. And when I think about contentment, I believe that while it’s a worthy venture to try and find contentment in our circumstances, we will never be truly content until we “go home”. I think the restlessness of lives is a greater symptom of our underlying knowledge that “this world is not our home”. So, when I read that “all creation is eagerly waiting” and “looking forward”, I feel that even our planet is not completely content, not entirely satisfied with the status quo because even it knows that it’s not our true home. We’re all connected because we’re all the work of the Father and we’re all longing for the day when He calls us home.

And that’s what I was trying to say though it still may not make much sense!


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Pondering Life’s Deep Questions

oc-christmas-025_crop2.jpgI stare intently into my bathroom mirror looking closely. Scrutinizing. Wondering…

How did I get here?

What led to this point in my life?

How much longer can this go on?

When was my last haircut?


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Home of the Flying Spaghetti Monster

oc-christmas-025_crop2.jpgI don’t know if Ginger and her daughter had ever given thought to whether or not the Flying Spaghetti Monster exists but I’m sure that after leaving our home tonight, they are devout Pastafarians.

Little did they know that our home is, in fact, where the Flying Spaghetti Monster resides. Ginger was christened by having spaghetti noodles thrown into her hair and her daughter, well, she received the most coveted blessing of all, Sauce in Thine Eye.

So, if you’re looking to convert, Tuesday is pasta night. Who knows, maybe you too can catch a glimpse of this noodly deity. If your lucky, he may even show you his pirate ship.

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